Wednesday, February 9, 2011



Super best friend


1.   Be your own best friend first.
Learn how to respect yourself. Decide what boundaries are important to you and respect them. Understand what values are important to you, stick by them and seek others who honor those values.

2.   Be loyal.
Stick up for your friend when they need it. Respect those times when they need to stick up for themselves. Trust your friend and allow yourself to be vulnerable with them. Also come to understand their limits and say "no" when you need to while still being their friend. A friend of integrity is of great value. It is the fact that through ups, downs, and disagreements you still seek to work things out and be their friend that truly demonstrates your loyalty.

3.   Listen.
Nobody likes a best friend who just talks and talks, but never listens. If you're a chatterbox, it's okay if you're also a good listener. Whenever your best friend says something, listen carefully and say something. Don't just say "yeah" and move on. Don't interrupt or fidget continually while they're talking to you. If they ask for advice, listen carefully and give them the best advice you can. It'll earn you respect and of course, make them come to you more.

4.   Be trustworthy.
If they tell you a secret, keep it, never ever, ever, tell someone a secret your friend wanted you to keep. Don't even leak it out to someone you know you can trust. A secret is a secret.

5.   Stick up for them.
Sitting and watching your best friend get picked on or teased is definitely not going to earn you a brownie badge!! In best friends.

6.   Spend time together.
Hang out on the weekends or plan activities together every now and then, do some homework together, and chat during break at school. You don't have to live in each others' pockets, but make sure you spend some quality time together with your best friend to make the friendship grow and become stronger.

7.   Care for your best friend.
Best friends care for each other. Show them you appreciate their presence in your life. If your best friend is ever upset then ask them what's wrong. They might not tell you straight away but they will in the end, you just have to comfort them and let them know that you are there no matter what.

8.   Avoid expectations.
If you assume what best friends' roles are, you will get disappointed and frustrated. Best friends are one of the most valuable friends you have, but they cannot help or support you in every aspect of your life. Do not expect them to always be there, or expect them to say the thing you want to hear. If there are expectations your best friends need to reach, that will only leave you in a disappointing defeat. Be nice, do not email them saying they are a liar or you won't feel so good.

9.   Share laughs.
There is nothing like laughing and smiling to bring people together. Besides, when they're really friends, you guys can laugh at the dumbest and funniest stuff.

10. Be yourself.
You are who you are, and your best friend will accept that. Being "fake" could lead you to losing your best friend.

11. Maybe you weren't meant to be best friends.
If neither of you make an effort to get together, or if you get into fights with them for no reason, then maybe you weren't meant to be best friends. It's natural to stop having chemistry with a certain person, and if you grow apart, just be happy for the good times, and know how lucky you were to have that great person have a part in your life.

12. Never leave them.
I've done this many times before and i regret it a lot. Never say "yeah, i'll walk home with you!" or "i'll meet up with you tomorrow" and then you don't do it. That makes your friend think do i really trust her? Never do this.

13. If they pick another friend over you, just try to be friends with her friend too.
Maybe you guys can be a group of friends!

3 comments:

elixiroflife said...

love this one...
thanxs deesha (^_^)

Zahidah & Hidayah said...

am i your SUPER BEST FRIEND???hehe

DeeSha said...

thanks...about you question zahidah...what do you think???hehehe

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